In my last post, I talked about resetting for a few reasons: My patience has worn thin and my stress levels have exceeded my resilience. The end of winter is always hard for me, and we’re three days away from the time change. I’m not surprised I’ve been in a bad mood lately, despite all the fun things we’ve been a part of. I’ve had some personal issues recently, and while I won’t divulge online, I know everything will be okay.
So that’s about the gist of why I’m resetting. From what I understand, resets look different to all sorts of people. For me, it’s about becoming centered and balanced and reducing stress. I fell into an excellent self-care routine after my Granny passed away; I’m bringing back those techniques, such as doing one nice thing for myself each day, along with some information I found on Pinterest.
The Blissful Mind describes 10 ways to reset, most of which I’m already doing or plan to do soon.
- Drink lemon water in the morning: This starts tomorrow
- Do a self-care power hour: I did this Monday evening and today. I had tickets to see Keegan’s best friend play in Bully in Denver, but I opted to stay home instead. I took a long hot bath with a candle and hot tea. I read my books, watched tv and snuggled with our pets. I started getting sick after our ski trip, and with such high winds and frigid night-time temps, I couldn’t afford to compromise my health Monday evening, and I’m totally okay with that.
- Treat yo skin: So I’m trying Tarte’s Deep Dive Cleansing Gel, and it’s okay. This is more of a trial-run that a treat-yo-self-excursion, so I’m definitely returning to Philosophy once this stuff runs out, but I don’t want to waste it, so I’m hanging in there. On the other hand, I’ve stashed several face masks and plan to use one Sunday evening before the start of a new work week.
- Get some fresh air: We did this last Sunday when we tried cross-country skiing with Jimmy and Christine. We also walk Buddy as often as possible and try to do so daily, depending on the weather.
- Declutter your digital life: I deleted Instagram from my phone back in January, and now I don’t even take as many pictures as I used to. I don’t feel the need to broadcast where I’m at, what I’m doing or who I’m hanging out with as often as before. I keep my thoughts to myself and listen more than I speak. The reduction of the ego is affecting my life in so many positive ways. My focus has improved tremendously, and my self-confidence continues to grow.
- Up your fruit and veggie intake: With everything I hauled from Esh’s recently, this will not be hard to do.
- Try positive affirmations: As I’ve waited on some news at work, speaking kindly towards myself and encouraging myself to be patient, I realize I use positive affirmations more often than I thought.
- Freshen up your desk space: Probably not doing this honestly. I don’t spend much time in my office, although I could freshen up my car lol. My office is basically my car.
- Focus on one thing at a time: Since I’ve been sick again this week, focusing on one thing at a time comes naturally when I’m feeling under the weather.
- Go somewhere new: I’ve got some plans in the works; it’s just a matter of implementation.
So, what else? I watched this French comedian on Netflix named Gad Elmaleh, and his stand-up was hilarious. If you want someone of out the ordinary, this is your guy. Felt good to laugh for a solid hour.
I started a cat thread on Facebook, and the cat pics sincerely cheered me up. Who knew so many of my friends had such adorable pets?
I finished The Untethered Soul by Michael A Singer in my car this week, which reminded me of A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. This absorbing, yet straight-forward read was exactly what I needed as a journey through this mission to disconnect from the ego.
I grabbed drinks with coworkers recently, went skiing, and caught up with friends at Brittany’s 30th birthday party last weekend. Keegan and I are going to Fatima’s citizenship party tonight and meeting Matt and Claire tomorrow in Denver to celebrate their birthdays. Needless to say, March is full of birthdays.
And last but not least, an article I once read suggested self-care is when you man up and do the shit you need to do.
Self-care is often a very unbeautiful thing.
It is making a spreadsheet of your debt and enforcing a morning routine and cooking yourself healthy meals and no longer just running from your problems and calling the distraction a solution.
I’m here to tell you, my last few weekends have been all about that. Between our taxes, house repairs and vet visits, I’m pretty sure I’ve accomplished “the ugliest things I have to do”. I cleaned the house today, balanced my budget and did the laundry. I’m taking care of myself this week, after getting sick again for the 5th time in 7 months. Tomorrow I’m meal prepping (which isn’t so much of a drag) and taking my dog to get his nails trimmed. Otherwise, I’m done!
Big thanks to Thought Catalog for calling people out for avoiding their problems, but I can assure you this is not the case for me. In fact, most of the stress I’ve suffered recently was probably due to my confrontation of the things I can’t avoid. This weekend we shall sing a different tune. We’re gonna hang with our friends, go hiking and relax. Because we deserve it, damn it!
This reset is all about self-care and intentional healing. Between working out more often and the time change this weekend, surely my circumstances will improve soon. In the meantime, here’s this–a song that basically defines my current status: